Break free from People Pleasing and Co-dependency
End the cycle of self sacrifice
and unhealthy attachment
Set boundaries and OWN your ‘NO’
Online Therapy in Texas
Bianca Diaz
Licensed Professional Counselor
Relationships aren’t supposed to feel like this…right?
You’re RIGHT. They’re NOT, and you know it. I just know you’re sick and tired of feeling like you’re the last priority in your relationships. You spend a LOT of time ensuring that everyone in your world is cared for, loved properly, and that they have everything they need to succeed—including people who don’t give back to you in the same way, if at all. These loved ones may be in great pain struggling with addiction, trauma, incarceration, medical or physical conditions. And you JUST want to be there for them. But over time, you’ve noticed that you wake up each day reminding yourself to:
‘be smaller’, ‘need less’,
and by all means ‘be useful’.
You’ve begun to notice that your life is consumed by others and their needs or opinions. And despite feeling and thinking this way, you find yourself still sacrificing more and more of yourself, to the point that
you’re not even sure who you are if you’re not serving someone else.
Cue the identity crisis! You’ve voiced your frustration and limits, but somehow you still feel unheard and disrespected. Or, maybe you’ve been guilt tripped into believing that voicing your concerns just makes things difficult. Oof. Here comes the resentment.
If this sounds like you, you may be dealing with people pleasing or its more intense cousin codependency.
You often think of others’ needs, wants, and opinions before your own
You seek others approval regularly
You HATE conflict
You feel guilty later for saying “No”
No matter what, you want to keep the peace even if it costs you
And more…
How do I know if I’m a people pleaser?
Your sense of self-worth or identity is tied to how much you care for, contribute to, or support others lives, or how happy you make them
You believe that you HAVE to do all you can to fix another person because they can’t (or won’t) do it themselves
You place others’ wellbeing above your own, to the point that you feel totally depleted after your ongoing efforts to make others’ lives better
How do I know if I’m codependent?
But what if living only for other people doesn’t have to be your story?
It’s possible to escape toxic cycles of abuse, neglect, and disrespect in relationships
Learn how to connect with others from a place of EQUALITY rather than giving up power and control over your life
You can discover who you are—even when you’re not serving others
Move OUT of the identity crisis and into an inner world of self-discovery, self-compassion, and self-LOVE
Learn to love others without falling into the cycle self-sacrifice
Identify unhealthy attachment and how it influences the ways that you show love to others
Confidently set and express healthy limits
Create and maintain ownership of healthy boundaries between you and others, and between you and thinking pattens that keep you stuck in unhealthy cycles
You CAN regain ownership of your world — and it doesn’t have to mean that you stop loving the people around you.
Meet Bianca, LPC
Explore Bianca’s experience and expertise with trauma-focused and attachment based counseling interventions to support your feeling and healing journey.
Services and Approaches
Learn about the therapies and interventions that can help you gain the confidence to set healthy boundaries, replace self-sacrifice with self-compassion, and cultivate healthy self-discovery after living through codependency.
BLOG: Codependency and People Pleasing Unpacked
Access a growing library of blog posts, resources, and insights on unhealthy attachment and gain insight into how it fuels the flames of people pleasing and codependent behaviors.
Ready for a change?
Let’s work together.
Bianca’s caseload is nearly full and she currently only has weekday late mornings and early afternoons available.
Check back soon for an update in availability!
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You can share your interest and readiness for deeper work and exploration in a brief direct message. Include any questions you may have about services or availability, as well as goals for work together and the best method to contact you.
Self Pay rate: $150 per session
See the “Work with Bianca” tab for a list of accepted insurance plans.